because the night is too young

because the night is too young

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Dear CL.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not here to start a blog war. Just to clarify some issues. Basically, you have been a thorn in my friend's relationship. Not good. Yea you were some girl of the guy's past, and you are trying hard to move on. Your blog is basically incessant chanting on how much you have moved on. Question is, have you?

When I used to be hung up on my ex, I blogged non-stop. "He is a bastard, there's nothing worth holding on to." "I don't want anymore of this drama, so stfu and leave me alone." yada-yada-yada. I've been through it all. And all I can say is, no matter how much you wanna hate that guy, you can't. Because love overpowers hate anytime and the actual opposite of love is indifference. You literally have to stop caring. Difficult, but just ignore everything. Even this post (if you manage to see it.) If you want to acknowledge it, just blog "I understand" it will be good.

I don't know what kind of a guy he is, but I know what kind of girl my friend is. So as far as I am concerned, if he hasn't hurt her yet, there is no reason for me to beat him up (literally). It is very rude to hurl insults at people. As you can see, I haven't insulted you at all because I want to show that I just wanna be a mediator. Whatever you said in your post, is totally uncalled for. I am very very sure my friend did not drag you back into any drama. She even has proof for it. See below.


I think it is a pretty decent message. You even replied nicely so that means you're a nice girl! There is definitely no sarcasm in her tone. Why? Quoted "you know her name, but you don't know her story." To summarize it, she has suffered a broken heart as well. And she understands the pain, as well as how your friends see you go through the pain because she saw through mine. It's not like we have never cried until our eyes swell the next day. Or scream our lungs out hoping it relieves the pain. If you really wanna move on, delete his number, delete his pictures, delete everything that has him. It will take awhile but it has to be done. Unless they are deleted, you can never fully move on.

Drunk texts and calls don't work. I tried. Patching back with an ex-boyf/ex-lover, don't work either. You can have the nostalgia and think back on all the sweet moments you had, but don't let those memories fool you because there is a reason why it ended. If there was no reason, it wouldn't have ended at all. That one reason will always be the cause of every end no matter how many times you patch up. Trust me, my 3-yr long r/s, break and patch about 3-4 cycles, it still ended.

I hope you can read this post with an open mind, not as an enemy's backup. Think of it as reading advice from a magazine "Love Talks" column. A girl-to-girl chit chat session. All these are simply advices, but they only work if you are determined to help yourself. You had so many wonderful happenings in your life, so believe in those happy events. (:

p.s. Names are not written to protect privacy.

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah