Dear CL.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not here to start a blog war. Just to clarify some issues. Basically, you have been a thorn in my friend's relationship. Not good. Yea you were some girl of the guy's past, and you are trying hard to move on. Your blog is basically incessant chanting on how much you have moved on. Question is, have you?

When I used to be hung up on my ex, I blogged non-stop. "He is a bastard, there's nothing worth holding on to." "I don't want anymore of this drama, so stfu and leave me alone." yada-yada-yada. I've been through it all. And all I can say is, no matter how much you wanna hate that guy, you can't. Because love overpowers hate anytime and the actual opposite of love is indifference. You literally have to stop caring. Difficult, but just ignore everything. Even this post (if you manage to see it.) If you want to acknowledge it, just blog "I understand" it will be good.

I don't know what kind of a guy he is, but I know what kind of girl my friend is. So as far as I am concerned, if he hasn't hurt her yet, there is no reason for me to beat him up (literally). It is very rude to hurl insults at people. As you can see, I haven't insulted you at all because I want to show that I just wanna be a mediator. Whatever you said in your post, is totally uncalled for. I am very very sure my friend did not drag you back into any drama. She even has proof for it. See below.

I think it is a pretty decent message. You even replied nicely so that means you're a nice girl! There is definitely no sarcasm in her tone. Why? Quoted "you know her name, but you don't know her story." To summarize it, she has suffered a broken heart as well. And she understands the pain, as well as how your friends see you go through the pain because she saw through mine. It's not like we have never cried until our eyes swell the next day. Or scream our lungs out hoping it relieves the pain. If you really wanna move on, delete his number, delete his pictures, delete everything that has him. It will take awhile but it has to be done. Unless they are deleted, you can never fully move on.

Drunk texts and calls don't work. I tried. Patching back with an ex-boyf/ex-lover, don't work either. You can have the nostalgia and think back on all the sweet moments you had, but don't let those memories fool you because there is a reason why it ended. If there was no reason, it wouldn't have ended at all. That one reason will always be the cause of every end no matter how many times you patch up. Trust me, my 3-yr long r/s, break and patch about 3-4 cycles, it still ended.

I hope you can read this post with an open mind, not as an enemy's backup. Think of it as reading advice from a magazine "Love Talks" column. A girl-to-girl chit chat session. All these are simply advices, but they only work if you are determined to help yourself. You had so many wonderful happenings in your life, so believe in those happy events. (:

p.s. Names are not written to protect privacy.

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Revamped Branding: The All New CODE SOCIETE Feat. DJ Nicole Chen and DJ Linc.

Hey people, I am finally officially back from my hiatus. My hiatus includes haven't been clubbing, haven't been partying, haven't been blogging (both here and my nail polish blog). Too busy planning my birthday party, getting used to school, constantly busy with netball. /:

So, to break my hiatus, here are some awesome news! Code Society has recently underwent a rebranding and international launch! In collaboration with Prism, they are now know as CODE SOCIETE! Don't wait! Go to www.codesociete.com and sign up now to be on the mailing list of the hottest parties all around the world! :D Once sign up, you will be on the list for all VIP invites. How exciting!!

Not forgetting their partner, do check out www.prismtechnics.com! They are prompt with their updates. I mean, they update LIVE! Checkout their Prism Seen where you see the stars that the co-founders hang out with. (Eg. Big Bang, Jay Park, Avril Lavigne, Paris Hilton... etc.) The list goes on. I am fainting just blogging about it. Part of the collaboration are Model-DJ Nicole Chen (Code Societe) and DJ Linc (Prism). Our music is awesome thanks to them!

So don't wait! Sign up now at Code Societe! Follow us on instagram @codesociete too!

Follow DJ Nicole Chen on soundcloud : www.soundcloud.com/nicolechen

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Delayedddd

I am so sorry for all the delay! I have so many posts lined up to post up here but I have been so busy! Do tweet me @partycar to remind me that I need to blog about my zoo trip, father's day dinner and the latest addition, clubbing/meet up with my primary school friends! hahahah. I promise I will do them soon! In the meantime, do check out my nail review blog http://polishthecar.wordpress.com where I upload a review every week! Leave me questions on my ask.fm box too <3

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

LEH-GO-LAND

A few weeks back, Boyf and I went to Legoland Malaysia with our friends Anna and Junyi! I never really got about to putting my pictures on my personal blog, so now I have finally found the time! We had such a fun day but only because we had the right company. Legoland is an interactive place which is more suited for families with young children instead of young adults. However, if you are a young adult with a kid in you, you will definitely have fun as long as you are with your friends. (:

Alright, time for pictures!!

If you all are planning to go, I suggest you head on to www.groupon.com.sg because they have a package for Legoland! $59.90 per person inclusive of 2-way coach transport, Legoland entry ticket and insurance! I had fun there so go ahead and enjoy yourself ^^

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Jealousy reeks.

Never really been fond of myself. I've always felt my shoulders were too broad, too much love handles, and everywhere that was once toned is now flabby. Kinda sucky especially when I know my boyfriend is pretty good-looking that girls actually "fish" him in clubs. I've been working on my dagger stares whenever I club with him. *oops* Do you know how jealous I am of girls who I don't think even need to exercise and yet they just stay slim??!?!?!! My once slim legs which are the only assets I am proud of just looks gross because my butt ain't toned ):

I guess girls really have to forsake alot of things in life if they really want to look good. As in healthy good and not stick-thin "good" which is not good. (Am I making sense?) Anyway, I mean to stay healthy looking with a toned body, it means constant exercising with proper meals, supper not included. Proper sleep is also needed (not a very good example with this late post sighhhh) to give you good complexion and NO EYEBAGS! ): yes my eyebags are soooo bad that instagram filters cannot hide them! /: So that means I need to say "NO!" to late night supper with friends ): yup, sacrifices for a pretty face and hot bod.

For girls who are trying to stay on a vegetarian diet just to look good, do note that to be completely vegetarian, you need to take supplement pills to give you the vitamins/minerals that can only be found in meat. So I suggest eating meat as they should be cheaper than your pills and they taste good. Just remove the fats!

Probably the next thing to continue staying pretty, is to get a good camera.(HAHA!) Either that or pay for some awesome app and add filters just to look pretty. I am terribly horrible with that and overlays because I am extremely lazy, but I think I should start and do blogposts with nice photos. I shall prove that a DSLR is not needed ^^

To-blog-list:

- Legoland.

- Singapore Zoo.

To-meet-list:

- Sherilyn

- Yoksan

- Bryant and Joey

- Sunny

- Shakeela and Wilson

- Felice, Gwen and Jam

- Gloria and Jenem

- Peifang, May Ee and Saienah

- Abigail and Grace

Dear friends, I must meet you all soon okay!!! I'm running out of holidays /:

Lotsa love,

Carmen Sarah.

Insanely eventful weekend

Hey everybody! So my weekend started off with the BBQ on Friday at Junyi's place. It was an amazing BBQ because I prepared most of the food. Like literally. There was a miscommunication as I mentioned in the previous post hence I marinated the sambal stingray and squid on my own for the group. I thought 'ok one BBQ and then I have to exercise during the weekend."

That did not happen. Yes I did have training on Saturday morning at SCGS but that very night itself, I had another BBQ. OMG. The food was awesome though. There was beer, wine and moscato. The potato salad was awesome! The prawns were amazing as well! I have no idea which caterer it was but I think I need to find out soon!

And then there was today, I just came back from Sherilyn's 21st birthday party at her place. Her youngest sister was so adorable. She was so excited to "rap", sing and dance for the crowd. What a cutiepie! Boyfriend and I had such a great time. I will do a photo post one of these days when I am very free to select my pictures.

To be up-to-date with my photos, do click the instagram follow button on the right. (:

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Busy week!

Hey everybody, this week has been a busy week for me. I recently started my netball competiton, Energizer National League (ENL) and so did my SIM recreational team. So I have been helping them with their training as well as going down to watch the other teams of my club. Been so busy travelling up and down. I still have to pack in work and also some fun time.

Managed to catch Fast and Furious 6 as well as Hangover 3 within 1 week. Amazing! Not only that, I just got back from a BBQ with friends. For the first time, I marinated the BBQ food instead of having it catered due to a miscommunication on who was to get the food. At least I managed to experience grocery shopping with Junyi, Anna and my lovely boy, Qingyuan (: So I had to marinate the stingray and squid and place the sambal chilli over them. Quite a fun experience and it is wayyyy cheaper than getting it catered.

Due to my extremely hectic week, I haven't actually found the time to transfer my polish posts over to my new website. Don't worry I will get it done by the middle of next week! Get ready for some new colours ^^ The nail review website link will not be revealed until I have set it up nicely. So be patient guys!

Gotta head to bed now because I have training at 9am tomorrow! ): Goodnight everybody!

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Workout Challenge!

Hello there! How has your week been so far? It's mid-week so anybody heading out to party? ^^ So my exams just ended and I took up some workout challenge which I chanced upon on all my social media platforms. They are the 30-days ab challenge and the 30-days squat challenge. Abs and perky butt, I will be waiting for your return :P Below are the challenges which I took off instagram and facebook (: Today was Day 1 for me and I hope I can actually keep to it ^^

There is also a 10-day ab challenge so if you don't want any rest days and want a quick challenge you can try these also! I added in a 10 mins run at the end of my exercise. So start working out now!

Lotsa love,

Carmen Sarah Wee!

Mother's Day!

Hey everybody, I have been feeling so stressed up that I rather watch shows or play Sims 3 on my computer than to study. A little mental especially since I have 2 core subjects that are really important for me to do well otherwise I can say goodbye to my university education ): Somebody please save my soul ): I actually cried at Han's cafe before I started smiling again. Seriously mental -.- but 2 DOWN 3 MORE TO GO!

Anyway, Mother's day is coming up. Have you guys gotten anything for your mum? The best gift ever and I am going to say the most cliché phrase: Mothers just want some of your time. I can be honest with you, my mum is so naggy I do actually feel like taping her mouth up. I know, it sounds evil. Yet once I've calmed myself down and I am sitting in my room thinking, I end up seeing things from her perspective.

My mum is a worrier. She worries about every single detail on this entire earth! She doesn't like me taking the car out late because she believes somebody will notice and start to lurk around in the wee hours to kidnap me. She secretly thinks that any male friend of mine she hasn't met before has the intention of selling me off if I hang out with him. I am coming 21, yet she worries for me as if i'm 3. But that is what mothers do. Maybe not as extreme as mine but they still worry. So the best gift to all mothers is really to see you, have a meal with you, chat with you and know more about you. I mean she gave birth to you so she definitely would like to know what is going on in the life of this being she had brought onto this earth. She has every right to know in fact. A gift on Mother's Day can make her happy for a day, but spending time with her, or even just a phone call to let her know who you're out with and what time you're coming back to put her mind at ease, can make a happy everyday. Spend time with your mother. She really don't expect much (:

Gifts like a wallet, handbag, make up, perfume, nail polish are wonderful gifts. You can't go wrong with that Mums still wanna stay young and pretty. They are women after all. However if you want to go for something unique and fresh, if you have time on your hands and you really like art and craft, check out http://www.creativepopupcards.com. I chanced upon a tutorial video on youtube (Check it out below!) and it was such a beautiful pop up card. The website has many other designs so you should go check it out.

Wishing all mothers out there an advanced Happy Mother's Day and I hope you all get wonderful gifts and precious time spent with your beloved children (:

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

When You Were My Man - Madilyn Bailey

Hey guys, I chanced upon this video on my Facebook newsfeed. It's the female version of "When I Was Your Man" by Bruno Mars. The lyrics are slightly different so that it is from a girl's perspective and I think it's really good. Madilyn Bailey managed to portray the regretful feeling almost like Bruno Mars did, but different in a sense that it was to admit the mistakes they made as a couple and that she finally realized that she deserved somebody better.

It rings a certain bell in me. In every relationship, there is no complete right or wrong. Both are responsible for the mistakes made. But for girls who dated guys with huge pride, you need to be strong to realize you deserve somebody better. I'm not saying that guys are always at fault, don't jump to conclusion. What I'm saying is based on the context of this song, you might take awhile to realize, but it's alright. I took a long time, but now I finally got somebody who "buys me flowers and holds my hand, gives me all his hours when he has the chance." (:

Should totally check out the video over here:

The lyrics are below:

Same bed, but it feels just a little bit bigger now 
Our song on the radio, but it don't sound the same 
When our friends talk about you all it does is just tear me down 
Cause my heart breaks a little when I hear your name 
It all just sound like uh, uh, uh ahh 

Hmmm too young, too dumb to realize 
That you should have bought me flowers and held my hand 
Should have gave me all your hours when you had the chance 
Take me to every party cause all I wanted to do was dance 
Now baby I'm dancing, but I'm dancing with another man 

Your pride, your ego, your needs and your selfish ways 
Caused a nice young love like me to walk out your life 
Now you'll never, never get to clean up the mess we made 
And it haunts me every time I close my eyes 
It all just sounds like uh, uh, uh, ahh 

Hmmm too young, too dumb to realize 
That you should have bought me flowers and held my hand 
Should have gave me all your hours when you had the chance 
Take me to every party cause all I wanted to do was dance 
Now baby I'm dancing, but I'm dancing with another man 

Although it hurts I'll be the first to say I was wrong 
Oh, I know I'm probably much too late 
To try and apologize for your mistakes 
But I just want you to know 
Mmmm he buys me flowers, he holds my hand 
He gives me all his hours cause he has the chance 
Takes me to every party cause he remember how much I love to dance 
Does all the things you should have done when you were my man! 
Does all the things you should have done when you were my man!

Credits to Madilyn Bailey for doing such a great job. Do check out her other videos with the link from the video above. (:

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

TITLE.

Hey there, pardon the title because I couldn't come up with one.

Have been busy studying with the boy and friends. Sadly, all my friends are going to end their examinations wayyyy earlier than me. Well not all, just most. As you know, I have recently been appointed the President of SIM Netball Club. It is a huge role as it is being captain with administrative responsibilites. Just checked the club's email and there were so many enquiries about joining the club that were unanswered. Hope that those people still have an interest in joining after I replied them ): So if any readers who are in SIM and are interested to join Netball (recreational or competitive), do drop an email to netball@clubs.sim.edu.sg and I promise you I will reply you within a week. (:

I have been totally hooked onto nail polish thanks to my dear friend Sherilyn. If you are a nail polish addict, especially indie brands, do check out my friend's swatch blog (nailsbysherilyn.wordpress.com) She gives great reviews and you would be able to find some good brands which are among her favourites (: Follow her on instagram as well! (http://instagram.com/sherilynnnnnn) I am totally excited about my Jindie Nails prize which is on their way. Will probably start swatching soon but I will need to learn from Sherilyn hahaha.

So, it's the last leg of the uni year! Everybody study hard so that you can have an awesome summer vacation with the worrying about your results because you know you have studied hard! Best of luck people!

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Too much on my hands ):

Hey everybody, life's been pretty tough for me recently. Exams are just round the corner and my body clock is screwed up and I feel like I don't have enough time to finish studying even though I have started a longgggg time ago.

BUT!! CANNOT GIVE UP! So all of you readers out there who are having exams soon, All the best! I know it's tiring, I know it's totally draining you out, but it's the last stretch so just push through and you'll have a very awesome long holiday!! I promise you I will update you every week where are the greatest parties! Like almost everywhere ok? I give you contacts to whatever guestlist you need, well almost to anywhere. hahaha.

If you need to relieve some stress, check out this video:

Part II by Celeste Chen and her friends! Do check it out and don't forget to like her on facebook.
Don't forget her sister Nicole Chen too!

All the best people! (:

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Celeste Chen's birthday!

Hey all, Celeste Chen just uploaded a new video recently! 10 "ways" to beat the queue in Singapore clubs. Check out the video below!

Credits: Nicole Chen and Celeste Chen

Also, Celeste Chen is celebrating her 23rd birthday on the 3rd of April at High Society - The Mansion (Pacific Plaza). There are details at the end of the above video. You can also find details from https://www.facebook.com/events/449198631822693/?fref=ts

Everybody is invited! So bring along all your friends. Unlimited guestlists for both guys and girls! If you are coming in a hugeeee group, check out https://www.facebook.com/codesociety?fref=ts to get a sofa for your group! It is gonna be a huge party! So remember to mark your calendars! 3rd April, Wednesday (:

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

10 types of girls and guys in Singapore clubs.

Hey you all! As I am unable to sleep now, I shall post some pretty hilarious videos done by Celeste Chen and her friends.

10 types of girls in Singapore Clubs.

10 types of guys in Singapore Clubs.

These videos are made just for fun and entertainment so no hating! Although some may find it lame, but one man's meat is another man's poison. (: So just check out these videos and maybe it will lead you to look out for these familiar characters the next time you're at the club (:

Video Credits

Celeste Chen: blog | facebook | youtube | twitter | instagram

Nicole Chen: blog | facebook | youtube | twitter | instagram

Jocelyn Wee: facebook

Ping: facebook 

Joey: facebook

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Relationship tips?

Hey everybody, sorry for the lack of posts. I've just started work, prelims just ended and my piano exam is coming up so I am really exhausted /: Anyway, do not judge the title of this post. Huge disclaimer: I am not saying that I am excellent at relationships. I am still learning, but I believe that there are changes in me that I have noticed comparing how I was in my previous relationship and how I am now.

At a beginning of a relationship, every couple will have this phase where they want to spend every single waking moment with their other half aka "Honeymoon Period." That is fine, completely normal. What happens after is the difficult part.

There will be a time when you want to have some time to hang out with your friends without any of you bringing your partners along. However, because you have spent about a few months spending everyday with your partner, you suddenly feel overwhelmed when they ask "can I tag along?" Note that they are not "clingy", they are just used to tagging along. Generally, (but of course with exceptions), girls will be the one that immediately feel insecure when their boyfriends say, "No la it's just us guys and we will probably hang out till really late, so you just sleep first ok?" It instantly leads to "shit, he meeting some girl." NO! Don't jump to that conclusion. Guys, you are not escaping from this because I know of some guys who react the same way.

First of all, WHERE IS THE TRUST? Are you sure you are ready for any form of commitment? I mean, if you really trust him/her, just let them have time with their friends. I was out with a girl friend and we both agreed that sometimes girls will have their own things to gossip/chat about and so do guys. Yet these topics that are discussed are usually unable to be expressed when our partners are around. It is COMPLETELY normal. Everybody needs their me time, girl time and guy time. It just this thing called "Space". Without this space and some air to breathe, nobody will ever want to be in a relationship. They will just go to clubs and probably have a list of girls/guys for booty call.

Sometimes when my boy stays over for the night, his friend who is my neighbour would ask him out for supper. Although staying over at my place means to spend time with me, I just passed him my house keys and just let him go have supper and a good catch up session with his mate without me sitting there blocking the flow of the many topic they could be discussing. Not just supper, I even let him hang with 2 other guy friends and they went to Wine Bar for some drinks. Which brings me to my second point.

2: You will honestly feel good after giving each other that space. If your partner lets you have a day away from him/her to hang out with your friends, you will go out feeling "he/she is so understanding." You will know that you had made a good choice to commit to a relationship with such a partner. You will also feel good if you are the one allowing him/her to go out with their friends. You give your partner the impression that you trust them and you understand that these are the people your partner grew up with and they have loads to catch up. You also leave a good impression on your partner's friends. They will be saying "your girl/boy so nice, give you space to hang out with us. You are a lucky man/woman." Honestly.

3. You need to have separate group of friends. Yes you can bring your partner into your clique and be a huge clique, but you still need to have the "his friends" and "her friends" group. Being in a hugeeee group of friends can affect friendship. Happened to me and I know. I lost an ENTIRE group of friends because of a breakup. Stupid. Your separate groups of friends allow you to find this space to prevent the feeling of being suffocated by the commitment. You will each have a group of friends to call out without the need of always bringing a partner. After all, you met this group of friends when you were all single, so you need to have that fun time once in a while.

I know this aren't exactly fantastic tips, but they are little things I have noticed about how I have grown since my last horrible relationship and it has made me work towards being a better girlfriend. Not only that, it also made me realize a relationship is about giving and taking. There cannot be only one side giving in all the time because it will lead to exhaustion of the other party, and hence straining the relationship. I hope these tips can give you a little nudge to reflect upon your relationship and work hand-in-hand with your partner to keep it going strong (:

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

CNY!

Hey all! How was your CNY? Did you collect a lot of red packets? I know I did! However, I have yet to open them because I was brought up to follow a tradition whereby I open my red packets after the 15th day of CNY. Do any of you do that?

Currently I am on my way to work. Really tired due to my major studying session last night. Exhausted. Prelims are around the corner and I have to catch up especially since I have had too much fun the past week. Hehe.

I was contemplating on what I want my blog to review specifically. Advertising for parties gets tiring because I haven't been clubbing often. Thinking of reviewing nail polishes. I should try that. Nail polishes and make ups probably. I'll probably think about this more carefully when I'm fully awake. Shall nap on the bus before I reach work. (:

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah

Start of the 2013

Hey there all! (Belated) HAPPY NEW YEAR! I know I am slow but I have been so busy soaking up my freedom from school that I just don't feel like even noting down the events that happened. Simply bask in the moment as I spend it with my beloved.

How has the new year been for all of you? My new year started fairly normal, driving down ECP sending my sister to her sleepover party. No countdown. but oh well. School has started again for majority of people, even for my babyboy. Yay he has started university with me and we even went to school together today. (: School has started and so will hardcore mugging. Uni students have to be always on the ball of their feet with the rushing of assignments and the end of semester examinations that always seem so near. That goes for me as well. I am halfway through my UOL year 1 so preliminary examinations are in about 2 months time. I am totally freaking out. I really need to discipline myself and get back on track. Another bunch of people who need to stay consistent are the JC2 and the Sec 4E/5NA kids. You guys really have to start being consistent right now. Whatever homework that needs to be done, do it. Do not procrastinate, especially JC2s. O levels is possible to scrape through because I did. But if you really want good grades, start now. Don't wait too long and live to regret like I did. JC2s, start now. A levels is not as easy as you thought it would be. You take it and you will think O levels was a breeze. (It is.) I took A levels twice, not fun. Study hard and get it over and done with. My sister will be studying along with you all. She's in SAJC. (: So I wish you all the best in your studies, my dear readers.

And if I actually have some adult readers (I'm not sure, but just in case.) I wish you the best of luck at work. May you get a pay increment or a promotion and may your nasty boss be slightly better because you know that is better than nothing. hahaha.

I should be getting bed. School tomorrow at 830am. Once again, Happy New Year (:

Lotsa love,
Carmen Sarah